{mullings & musings} I've decided not to tan...

I've been thinking about how to start this post all weekend long. As most of you were probably (hopefully!) frolicking in the water & under the sun to unofficially welcome summer, I thought it would be the best time to bring this up. This may seem trivial, but I think it's critical.  Ok I know this sounds ridiculous, but I've decided not to tan this summer. 

Let me tell you, I'm not thrilled about it. But, I am determined that this is the smart and healthy choice to make. My self-confidence has always been tied to how tan I am. I instantly feel better/skinnier/prettier when I'm tan. Funny enough, most all other cultures value white, porcelain skin whereas ours promotes a tan, leather-like color. BB cream, that has become so popular in the US lately, has been around for ages in Asian cultures and is known to bleach skin. 

I'm from a Middle Eastern background where most everyone is darker skinned, by comparison I'm Snow White! I was always upset about this growing up, wondering why I didn't get the tan gene. So, I would lay out every summer and go to tanning beds for every special occasion. Always within a few days, I turned a rich, deep dark tan. 

Well, as of this summer, no more. I feel a responsibility as a life and style blogger to talk about this subject. I know that some bloggers have started safe sun campaigns, and that is wonderful! I'm not here to tell anyone not to tan, just please be safe. Please wear sunscreen! I can only imagine the damage I have already done to the layers of my skin with all those years in my 20s when I didn't wear sunscreen and just baked under the sun. 

This summer is going to be a real test of my dedication, resolve and most importantly my self confidence. I hope that I can still feel the summer fun, without those golden rays. I still plan on going to the lake, of course! But I will be smart, I will wear sunscreen, and I will not bake in the sun! 
I will not actively seek out a tan.
Really, I'm writing this post so that I can hold myself accountable. Y'all gotta help me out! Because I must be honest, I do love laying out in the sun, the warmth and that beautiful carmel color. But you know what, I love myself and my skin and my health more!

So tell me, what's your sun care routine? 
Are you careful to wear sunscreen? Do you love to tan? 

I hope you're enjoying the last of your Memorial Day weekend!
My best friend's wedding was absolutely stunning! Those of you who follow me on Instagram saw a few snaps from the celebrations. 
My heart is full, what a magical love-filled weekend.

here's to a fabulous week,

Just another quick disclaimer
I'm not trying to be on my soapbox here, as always I just want to start a discourse so that collectively we can consult on the real issues that face us all. Especially those that are perpetuated by the business of style. I would love, love to hear your opinions on this topic.

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Lisa said...

That is one of the best decisions you will ever make! I have never intentionally tanned. I'm a fair-haired, fair-skinned, light eyed gal with two Irish grandparents, so the sun is not my friend. Although I have spent a lifetime avoiding tanning, I do have freckles that I have had since I was a child.
I feel very self conscious in the summertime of my very white, tanless legs...but the byproduct of avoiding sun exposure and having slightly dorky super pale skin is a wrinkle free face. At 51, I have very few crow's feet and only one visible wrinkle. I was made fun of often as a kid for my paleness...but it turned out to be a blessing.

I used sunscreen/moisturizer on my face every day. I'm a big supporter of this!

Glad you made that decision, Mae...you won't regret it.

Samantha George-Realtor said...

I like to be tan, but I also wear lots of sunscreen! I still get some color, but never get burned! I do want to make a habit of wearing a hat along with my sunscreen to keep the rays off of my face. Good luck!

Andi said...

I think this is a great decision. As a fair-skinned girl, I've never really been able to tan without burning, so I always try my best to keep the sunscreen applied. Sometimes, I wish I was tan, but I just try to remind myself that in 40 years, my skin will look younger than all the girls who are tan now!

Elizabeth {Ms Classic Glamour} said...

YES!! Welcome to the club! I'm so glad you made this decision, hun. I'm pale myself, but I definitely stand out in the summer time when everyone else is darker... I like being different. :)
Have a beautiful holiday!

Gaby [The Vault Files] said...

I was known in High School as Casper, and that made me want to be tan, so there were many many times in High School where I would just go tanning at the beach or at the pool to look less "Caspier". But it's been soooooo long since I've gone tanning! Mostly because now we are so aware of the damage, so when we go to the beach I wear sunscreen, same when I go running in the sun, though sometimes I forget to apply it..And my daily moisturizer is SPF 15 so at least I know I'm somewhat protected ;)

Sarah Roads said...

Good for you! I haven't tanned in years. i decided I wasn't willing to risk looking old for a little color now. I do love me a good spray tan though, helps take the pasty edge off : ) You will adjust and look better for it in the long run! xo

Nuha said...

i've always been known as "abu samra" and my problem is being TOO tan - like brownish, not pretty haha It's funny how we always want what we don't have. Growing up as a tan middle eastern I would always feel slightly jealous of the gorgeous light skinned girl that were always so coveted. Thankfully, now I'm happy with being tan and I'm making more of an effort to be more sun damage cautious. Goodluck to you this summer! Tan or not, I'm sure you'll look gorgeous!

stringsandbuttons said...

The funny thing is I felt like you were talking about ME when I read this. All my life my friends have made fun of me for being white and not being able to tan. And even though I, too, am from a Middle Eastern background, I always looked pale white compared to them. Just the other day I was telling my husband that this year I am not going to care about tanning this summer. I've been reading and hearing so much about cancer that I am seriously frightened about the prospect of getting it. Again, the conversations you start are so interesting and so personal and I am so inspired to start such important topics on my blog. Thanks again

Lacey said...

I tan pretty easily, but always slather on the spf 50. My family has always baked themselves and their skin is really starting to show it. Even my brother, who is nearly 5 years younger than me, looks older than I am because he rarely uses sunscreen and is outdoors all summer. I think looking a bit sun-kissed is good, though--but I like to use some bronzer, my Nars blush, and you know...build-a-tan. :)

Rachel Emma (Daydream Frenzy) said...

i use to tan in the summer all the time, but then i learned it causes wrinkles! yikes! now i wear sunscreen almost everyday lol

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